“She Knows,” A Ne-Yo song parody where women are hit on for the size of their books, rather than the size of their boobs. Written, produced and starring yours truly:
When I first heard the song, “She Knows,” naively I thought it was celebrating smart women, until I watched the video and realized it was about women who knew how to strip on a pole. I was so offended that I said, “No, I won’t let hip-hip or men define us this way anymore,” and as a result wrote a song that empowers women and celebrates us for our minds.
My wish? For women and men to speak up and take these images of women being portrayed as sexual objects personally – not dismissing it as the “media” or cultural norm. If we continue to perpetuate these images, we will struggle to raise confident, healthy and well-rounded girls.
This video represents what I know women to be: Hard-working, intelligent, engaged with the world, silly, fierce and will gladly yell at the television during a Presidential debate.
My Final Cut Pro editing class consists of all men except for me and another woman. The dynamic of the class goes as follows:
Overheard from the women in class:
“It’s so cold in here.”
“Can you go over that cut again? I don’t understand it”
“Ugh. I’m still looking for the pen in my purse.”
“Excuse me, I have to use the bathroom.”
“Can you explain that cut again?”
“I need help.”
“Yes! The audio and picture finally sync!”
“How do we get better at this?”
Snorting and laughter. (Snorting from yours truly)
Overheard from the men:
Let’s remember on International Women’s Day that are we here to support each other- not compete with one another. Lift one another up and make space for each other. Society can do a good job at making us feel like we’re not enough as we are. That we’re not pretty enough, skinny enough, maternal enough. Stay-at-home mothers get criticized. Working mothers get criticized. Childless women get criticized. Career-oriented women get criticized. Successful women get criticized. Undocumented women get criticized. The working poor are overlooked. The list goes on and on. Let’s never forget the social power we have and the strength we gain in supporting each other. Let’s never overlook how much we can rise if we choose to support and believe in another. Rise up and rise together.
Support and love your fellow sisters all around the world every day; I know I’ll be supporting mine.
10 Things Men Never Hear From the Opposite Sex:
- “Wow, I can’t believe you’re funny.”
- “It’s nice you’re not shy about eating – most men are.”
- Discussion of a current event is met with “I’m surprised you know that.”
- “Do you ever date people that are shorter than you?”
- “You’re look so exotic. Like J. Lo”
- “You don’t like to shop? That’s so weird.”
- “I don’t date men above the age of 32. I can get 23 year old men.”
- “I thought you looked mean, but then realized you’re focused on your work”
- “Love the attitude – so sassy!”
- “I can tell you’re one of those independent men, but down to earth at the same time.”
A bonus and my personal favorite:
11. “Damn, boo! Don’t walk so fast – I’m just trying to be your friend.”
It’s good once in awhile to let other people do the talking. And there’s no one’s voice I’d rather share than Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. After I heard her TED talk, “We Should All Be Feminists,” I was so struck and moved by her speech I researched her for a good hour. She is both an author and positive force in this world. I hope she plants some good seeds in your head and heart:
“The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are. Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn’t have the weight of gender expectations.”Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Some people strongly dislike poverty, others strongly dislike Taylor Swift. I know her name and music elicit a lot of different emotions in people. Despite your opinion of her, she stood up for women last night and encouraged us to take ownership of our success. Success is defined individually by each person. For me, I consider success not losing my gloves every winter and refraining from saying something awkward in a packed elevator. For others, it’s winning a Grammy for Album of the Year. Regardless, they are all noble pursuits and shouldn’t second-guess ourselves when it comes to embracing success.
If you work really hard for something, you should take pride in your work and embrace the credit you’re given. Whether someone tells you you’re a great mother or you’re doing a wonderful job in your line of work, I hope you take the praise to heart. No more, “Thanks, but -.” I rarely hear men say “Thanks, but -.” or “Yeah I know lost weight, but I have 20 lbs to go.” I love you fellas, but in my experience you don’t undermine your successes, if anything you hype up it up. Like the guy at the bar on Friday who told me he invented a really popular dating app…which I later found out he did not invent – Google for the win! Typically men don’t struggle embracing success – they take the credit and run with it. I am sooo happy Taylor Swift embraced hers last night and will continue to support my fellow sisters who do the same. For the record, I haven’t lost my gloves yet…but there are still 4 weeks left of winter. Stay tuned. Her awesome speech below:
“As the first woman to win album of the year at the Grammys twice, I want to say to all the young women out there: There are going to be people along the way who will try to undercut your success or take credit for your accomplishments or your fame. But if you just focus on the work and don’t let those people sidetrack you, someday when you get where you’re going, you’ll look around and you’ll know that it was you and the people who love you who put you there. And that will be the greatest feeling in the world.”
In the spirit of the satirical news, here’s a headline written by yours truly:
Woman Who “Leans In” At Work is Told to “Bend Over” by Her Boss
Albuquerque, NM- After applying Sheryl Sandberg’s “Lean In” practices at work, Jessica Diaz has mistakenly been accused of trying to seduce her direct manager.
“I read Sheryl’s book and took it to heart. I was sick of leaning back, sick of not getting a seat at the meeting table,” said the 39-year-old marketing executive. “So at our next marketing meeting, I sat at the table and leaned in purposely. That’s when I caught Jim staring at my tits.”
As Ms. Diaz became more assertive, she noticed her manager, Jim Donovan, becoming more flirtatious. “Like Sheryl suggested, I started speaking up in meetings, tried to get more face-time with Jim. I even started leaving work earlier to go to the gym to have more of a work-life balance,” Diaz said. “He thought I was trying to look good for him.”
When approached to discuss Ms. Diaz’s claims, Mr. Donovan asked, “Who do you want to talk about? Hot Diaz?” Mr. Donovan continued, “All of sudden she got feistier at meetings, began speaking up on issues that were important to her and asked to be cc’ed on emails. She started sitting closer to me at meetings, dropping by my office to share ideas,” he said. “She’s sassy, just like that Mexican chick from Modern Family. I’m pretty sure she wants to f*ck me.”
“I don’t know where I went wrong,” Ms. Diaz explained. “I tried to create more space for myself in the workplace, but Jim just created more space for me in his pants.”